I write this post on the heels of a week of talking frankly to parents in my office about allowing their children to experience natural consequences. In this era of everybody gets a trophy, we’ve all grown soft enough to believe that even a little pain can traumatize. In actuality, pain leads to character growth. One of the most painful experiences of my younger years was being told I would have to pay my own college tuition. Out of that came hustle, work ethic, focus, determination, and an appreciation for my education. If it had been handed to me I know I wouldn’t have developed the grit I have today.
Sadly, it goes beyond not allowing kids to have natural consequences. Many times I see teens who are obviously misbehaving, and their parents are enabling it! It harms your kids more than it helps them, even though your intent is good.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT