Your teenager will end up feeling unfulfilled if the goals he or she is working towards are not actually meaningful. We expend a lot of energy working on goals that prove to ourselves we rank higher than others. We seek to have more money, drive a nicer car, etc. There isn’t anything wrong with nice stuff at all, but have it for the right reasons. Similarly, there isn’t anything wrong with a teen wanting to be a valedictorian, but let’s pursue that for a love of learning rather than simply to say we’re number 1.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT