If you ask your teenager to give their input at their appropriate developmental level, they will mature. It is important for them to learn independent thinking. You will also find more compliance because people love to come up with their own ideas. So if you’d like to decrease the sass and increase the adult-thinking in your adolescent-aged children, ask them to help you decide things about the family and about themselves.
It’s important you only ask if you’re okay with whatever answer is given. If you know you will accept either of only two answers, then make those the choices. For example, “We’re thinking of visiting Grandma soon. Would you prefer to go this weekend or in two weekends?”
More on this in the video below:
Feel free to give an example of the types of choices you might give your teen in the comments section below. It will help other parents who are thinking about making this change.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT