When someone we love is struggling, we want to solve the problem for them. Unfortunately, this often backfires with teenagers. Many teens interpret unsolicited advice as criticism, even when it comes from a loving place.
The goal isn’t to eliminate anxiety overnight. The goal is to gradually teach the brain that the feared situation is actually safe.
When our actions match the way we present ourselves to the world, we are more at peace. In the same way, teenagers who develop integrity often enjoy greater self-respect and healthier self-esteem.
We want times of teaching and learning, but we also want you and your teen to have fun and joy!
There is no single explanation for why teens self-harm. One helpful way to understand the behavior is to view it as an attempt to cope with overwhelming emotional pain. A teenager may feel powerless in the face of a difficult situation—such as family conflict, grief, or another major stressor—and self-injury can create a temporary sense of control.
The goal of disciplining teens is not just to punish a behavior. It is to help your teenager learn responsibility while keeping your relationship strong.
Your teenager thinks of you as home base. They venture into the world, build friendships, try new experiences, and become more independent, but they continue to check in with you. When life becomes overwhelming, you are the person they trust to help them sort through it.
They felt like they were looking through a window at everyone else’s happy lives while they stood alone on the outside. More than anything, they longed for just one person to show them the kindness, acceptance, and friendship they saw others receiving so effortlessly. So why do some teenagers seem to fit in with ease while others struggle despite trying so hard?
Whether we realize it or not, our teens are constantly watching how we handle challenges, relationships, money, and faith. They are learning far more from what we do than from what we say. If there are certain values you hope your teenager will carry into adulthood, it is important to model those values yourself.
Stay focused on the long-term goal rather than winning every short-term battle. Continue setting appropriate boundaries. Continue holding your teen accountable. Continue looking for opportunities to connect. Most importantly, don’t let their dishonesty stop you from loving them well.