What Parents Should Know About Eating Disorders in Boys
Eating disorders happen to boys too. It’s not as commonly discussed as eating disorders in girls, and it’s not quite as prevalent. However, it definitely happens. In fact, it’s a real and growing concern. If you’re worried your son might be struggling with one, it’s key to know what eating disorders in boys can look like, the warning signs to watch for, and how you can step in to help.
Eating Disorders in Boys Vs. In Girls
When boys have eating disorders, they often look different from those in girls, which can make them easier to overlook. Girls may focus on being extremely thin, while boys typically aim to look “cut” or “chiseled.” This can lead to excessive weightlifting, eating very little, and, when they do eat, focusing almost entirely on protein.
Signs Your Son Might Have an Eating Disorder
There are some key signs to watch for if you are worried about eating disorders in boys.
1. Obsession with Working Out
Is your son spending way too much time at the gym? Does he lift so much weight that you worry about injury? This can be a warning sign of eating disorders in boys.
2. Focus on Body Fat Percentage
While girls often talk in pounds, boys talk in body fat percentages. I’ve heard boys aim for as low as 4% body fat to look “cut.” This is not healthy — our bodies need fat to function.
3. Frequent Dieting
Some boys skip meals or eat only fruits and veggies to get thinner. This is another sign of eating disorders in boys. Even if their goal isn’t to look emaciated, their ideals can still be just as unrealistic as girls.
4. Cutting Out Entire Food Groups
Many boys try to bulk up on protein and cut carbs, avoiding bread, chips, and sweets entirely. This can be another sign of unhealthy body obsession.
Why This Is A Problem
Over-focusing on body image can have serious consequences. Starvation plus excessive exercise is dangerous for physical health. It can also stunt emotional development and character development. If your son is only thinking about his body, he might:
- Skip social events to avoid missing a workout
- Be distracted on a date, worried about food choices
- Struggle to focus in class due to low calories
How to Help
Body image issues in teenage boys are more common than ever. If you notice signs of eating disorders in boys, talk to your son. If he continues to over-focus on his body image, give me a call, and we can talk about your son’s situation. Your concern and involvement can help him get back on track to being a well-rounded young man.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT