One of the best things you can do to make yourself more happy is live right now.  Look around you.  What do you notice that you weren’t “seeing” until I asked you?  For me it’s the play of shadows on the adjacent building.  There is a palm tree and I can see the silhouette of its leaves dancing against the white stucco.  It’s something beautiful I’ve never taken the time to notice in the eight years I’ve been in this office building.  It is a small thing, but it made the last 30 seconds of my life better.

You have things like that all around you too.  It is essential to “see” these things if you’re going to be happy.  Otherwise all you do is live in the future and the past.

Helping teens grow and families improve connection,

Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT