by Lauren Goodman | Feb 25, 2026 | Group Therapy For Teens
Building Solid Friendships for Teens that Really Last
Some teens have had the same close group of friends since they first started school. Others have one best friend they’ve known forever. But most of us aren’t like that. Most teen’s friendships change often, depending on classes, sports, or activities. Proximity plays a big role—when schedules change, friendships can fade. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re always starting over, here are five tips for building solid friendships for teens that really last.
1. Stay Consistent With Activities
If you’re involved in an extracurricular activity, try sticking with it. Staying on the same team or in the same group gives friendships time to deepen. Many teens switch teams or programs to be on the “best” team.
But you have to remember, most kids won’t go on to play sports in college or professionally, so being on the best team doesn’t really matter that much. Youth activities are about connection, work ethic, fun, and shared experiences. Staying with the same group—whether it’s sports, scouting, dance, youth group, or a club—creates space for real friendship to grow.
2. Building Solid Friendships for Teens by Creating Shared Experiences
If possible, ask your parents if you can bring a friend along on a family trip or vacation. Spending extended, one-on-one time together builds strong memories and helps friendships deepen in a natural way. These shared experiences often become the foundation for long-lasting friendships.
3. Set Healthy Boundaries in Friendships
One important part of building solid friendships for teens is learning to set boundaries. Some teens stay in friendships where they’re treated poorly because they don’t think they’ll be accepted anywhere else. A friend who talks behind your back, embarrasses you, or only uses you when it’s convenient isn’t treating you with respect.
Friends like this usually act like great friends one-on-one, but in front of other teens they tend to be mean or exclusive. Healthy friendships should feel safe both one-on-one and in group settings. Teens, don’t be afraid to step back from a friendship like this. There are other teens that will accept you for who you are. Sometimes it takes a few months, but if you look, you’ll find them.
4. Learn What It Means to Be a Loyal Friend
When building solid friendships for teens, it’s important not just to have good friends, but to be a good friend. Talk with your parents about what loyalty looks like in friendships.
You can’t control other people, but you can control your own behavior. Are you showing up when you say you will? Do you stand up for your friends when others are unkind? Do you keep plans instead of canceling when something better comes along? Being a loyal friend is one of the strongest ways to build lasting connections.
5. Pay Attention to the Little Things
Small actions matter more than you might think. Remember birthdays. Send a quick text to congratulate a friend on good news. Check in when someone is having a hard day. These little moments go a long way in building solid friendships for teens.
Building Solid Friendships for Teens by Finding the Right Friends
Follow these tips, but most importantly, choose your people wisely. If your current friends regularly leave you out, it will be difficult to build a deep and lasting connection with them. In truth, they may not be the people you want to invest your time and energy in anyway.
Look for friends who genuinely care about you for who you are. A simple test of a healthy friendship is whether you can comfortably say “no.” If a friend invites you to do something you’re not comfortable with (for example, going to a party where you know there will be drugs or alcohol), you should be able to decline without worrying they’ll pull away. Strong friendships respect boundaries. When you choose good friends and work to be a good friend yourself, you build deep, lasting relationships.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT
by Lauren Goodman | Feb 15, 2026 | Teen Anxiety Therapy
Why Volunteering Matters for Teens
Volunteering has countless benefits, but for teenagers, it’s especially important. Many parents first think about how volunteering looks on a college application. While that can be helpful, the reasons why should teens volunteer go far beyond admissions. Volunteering supports healthy development, builds work ethic, and even benefits physical and emotional health. Research consistently shows that teens grow when they spend time helping others.
A Real-Life Example How Volunteering Helps Shift Focus
I think back to the time my family did something outside of our comfort zone. We hosted a pastor who was attending a conference at our local church. If I’m being honest, it was inconvenient. The kids slept on the floor, the house had to stay picked up, we made extra food, and bedtime was later than usual. Since at the time my younger child woke me up at 5:30 every morning, the later bedtime made a difference.
Even so, it turned out to be a really positive experience. Every member of our family benefited from being inconvenienced for someone else’s sake. We were exposed to a different way of living. This pastor lived with far fewer material comforts and focused more on caring for others than on his own convenience or safety. It was humbling and eye-opening, and it reminded us how powerful it can be to give something up for someone else. Volunteering can do the same for your teen.
How Volunteering Helps Teens Grow
When it comes to teenagers, getting outside their own comfort and concerns is incredibly healthy. Teens I’ve worked with who have been exposed to real need or poverty often show more gratitude and perspective. Teens who grow up more sheltered often never see what true poverty looks like. Because of this, they focus heavily on material things like image and brand names. This isn’t because they’re selfish but because they’ve had limited experiences.
Volunteering helps teens gain perspective and see beyond their own small circle.
Volunteering Broadens Perspective
Teens who volunteer tend to work harder and care more deeply about something beyond themselves. They develop passion and purpose. They are less likely to see themselves as helpless or stuck. Instead, they learn that change is possible and that their actions matter. Volunteering can shift teens away from a victim mindset and toward empowerment.
Helping Your Teen Choose Meaningful Volunteer Work
The takeaway is simple: your teen benefits greatly from learning selflessness. One of the best ways to do that is through volunteering for a cause that truly matters. Encourage your teen to choose something meaningful, not just an activity that checks a box or fills required hours for college. When teens care about the cause, the impact is deeper and longer-lasting.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT
by Lauren Goodman | Feb 15, 2026 | Teen Anxiety Therapy
When Sports Stop Feeling Like Fun
Depending on where you live, this may or may not be relevant. But here in Orange County, California, youth sports are intense. It’s tough to make the Little League All-Star team. Club soccer can feel like a full-time job. Some high schools even recruit athletes from outside their district. Many parents have their kids in one, two, or even three competitive programs at the same time. There are private lessons, strength training, year-round leagues, and weekend tournaments. Families split up to attend different games. There’s travel. There’s pressure. And there’s always expense. Needless to say, the pressure of youth sports on teens can quickly get out of hand.
My Experience With the Pressure of Youth Sports on Teens
I played club soccer growing up, and it took up most weekends. When I wasn’t playing soccer, I was playing softball. In high school, I added field hockey. I also took honors and AP classes.
By the end of 10th grade, it all caught up with me. My body couldn’t handle 3–5 hours of sports a day plus a heavy academic load. After a long stretch of illness, I finally scaled back. I chose one sport. I reduced my AP classes. Some parents and friends thought I was making a huge mistake. They asked how I would ever get a college scholarship. But here’s the question we don’t ask enough.
Are We Adding to the Pressure of Youth Sports on Teens?
What is the goal? Is your child truly one of the tiny percentage who will play professionally? Do they love their sport so much that you couldn’t stop them from practicing extra even if you tried? Or are they tired? Complaining about practice? Struggling to finish homework? Wishing they had more time with friends?Sometimes we lose sight of the big picture.
Youth sports are meant to teach teamwork, discipline, perseverance, and resilience. They help kids build friendships and confidence. They give them exercise and a healthy outlet. But once a child shows talent or promise, things can shift quickly. Suddenly weekends are packed. Thousands of dollars are spent. Travel takes over family time. The fun quietly disappears.
The Hidden Impact of the Pressure of Youth Sports on Teens
Highly competitive sports can add real stress and anxiety to a teen’s life. They don’t always provide the relief we think they do. We’re also seeing more overuse injuries in adolescents—injuries that used to show up mainly in professional athletes. Some teens deal with lifelong pain because of damage done in middle school or high school. Out of my own friends who played collegiate sports, only three are injury-free today. Five live with chronic injuries. Four of those five have had surgery. One has had three.
That’s not a small cost.
Youth Sports in Moderation
This isn’t about condemning youth sports. Sports are wonderful. They build character and confidence. They create lasting memories. But they shouldn’t take priority over faith, family, academics, or physical health. If your teen is deeply involved in competitive athletics, pause and reflect. Consider their long-term health and their current stress level. Consider your family’s quality time together. When we step back and look at the whole picture, we’re usually able to make wise, balanced decisions.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT
by Lauren Goodman | Jan 28, 2026 | Christian Counseling
How Faith Helps with Addiction Recovery When Addiction Makes Life Feel Pointless
Does faith really matter when it comes to addiction recovery? In my experience, yes—very much so. While some people do get sober without faith, it’s not very common. Most people who truly heal end up putting their hope in something bigger than themselves, something that gives their life meaning again. Often, that something is God. This is how faith helps with addiction recovery.
When addiction has taken over, life without a high can feel dull, empty, or just not worth it. Getting sober is uncomfortable and often miserable at first. Faith can be what helps someone keep going when everything in them wants to give up.
Why Purpose Is So Important in Recovery
People don’t usually get sober just because they’re told they should. They need a reason. Believing you were created on purpose, and that your life still matters, can be powerful motivation. This is one of the ways faith helps with addiction recovery. It gives hope that life on the other side of addiction is meaningful, even when it isn’t easy.
Addiction is often about chasing good feelings and avoiding pain. Faith shifts the focus away from doing what makes you feel good in the moment and toward purpose. Following God doesn’t promise a pain-free life, but it does offer fulfillment. For many people, that difference changes everything.
How Faith Helps With Addiction Recovery Day to Day
When people talk about getting sober “through faith,” they’re usually talking about value and hope. Faith helps them believe they are more than their addiction and more than their past mistakes. Instead of living for the next high, they start living for something that lasts.
A faith-based recovery can also help people tolerate discomfort. Recovery isn’t comfortable. There are cravings, emotional lows, and hard truths to face. Having faith gives people a reason to sit with that discomfort instead of escaping it.
Faith and the Painful Parts of Change
Breaking free from addiction is exhausting. Detox can be brutal. Letting go of old friends, routines, and coping strategies can feel like losing everything at once. This level of change usually requires a complete shift in how someone sees themselves and the world.
This is likely why programs like Alcoholics Anonymous emphasize turning things over to God, and why so many people find healing in faith-based programs like Celebrate Recovery. These are just a few of many great faith-centered recovery programs. Faith provides something steady to hold onto when life feels chaotic.
Hold Onto Hope
If you or your teenager is stuck in the cycle of addiction, don’t lose hope. Faith doesn’t promise instant happiness, but it does offer meaning, love, and purpose, which is far more rewarding in the end than instant gratification. Many people discover through faith that they still have value and still have something to offer the world—even after addiction.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT
by Lauren Goodman | Jan 27, 2026 | Eating Disorder Therapy
Learning About Signs of Eating Disorders in Teens
Eating disorders are fairly common. You’ve likely heard of anorexia and bulimia nervosa. Binge eating disorder is another lesser known diagnosis. It shares many symptoms with bulimia but does not include compensatory (i.e. purging) behaviors. If you worry your child might have an eating disorder, it’s important to learn the signs of eating disorders in teens.
Types of Eating Disorders
To understand the signs of eating disorders in teens, it helps to know what each eating disorder looks like and how they are different from each other.
The three main types of eating disorders are anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder. There are two other types of eating disorders too, but they mostly serve as general categories for cases that don’t fit neatly into the main three.
Anorexia Nervosa
To be diagnosed with anorexia, a teen must maintain a weight well below healthy levels. Anorexic teens also have an intense fear of gaining weight and a distorted view of their body. Though past criteria for anorexia included loss of menstruation, that is no longer required. It is important to note that while anorexia is most common in girls, anorexia affects boys as well.
Bulimia Nervosa
Bulimia, like anorexia, is marked by a fear of gaining weight and a distorted body image. However, instead of being underweight, teens with bulimia are usually of normal weight or slightly above a healthy weight. They often binge eat when upset or hungry and then feel compelled to compensate through purging. Purging can include vomiting, laxatives, excessive exercise, or fasting.
Binge Eating Disorder
This disorder involves consuming large amounts of food in response to emotional triggers. Unlike bulimia, teens with binge eating disorder do not attempt to purge after overeating. However, like bulimia, teens with Binge Eating Disorder also have feelings of shame, guilt, and disgust after overeating.
Why Early Recognition of Signs of Eating Disorders in Teens Matters
Eating disorders are dangerous and need immediate attention. Anorexia can lead to life-threatening starvation, while bulimia can cause severe electrolyte imbalances and even death. Binge eating disorder can result in long-term health problems and emotional distress.
Getting Help for Your Teen
If you notice signs of eating disorders in your teen, take action quickly. Talk to your pediatrician and seek professional counseling. Your teen is still the same amazing person underneath it all, and with the right support, they can recover.
Helping teens grow and families improve connection,
Lauren Goodman, MS, MFT
